Life is FULL of very trying challenges!!!
You may have experienced sexual, physical or mental abuse as a child or as an adult. You may have experienced divorce. Perhaps you were fired, filed bankruptcy, been severely ill or faced an addiction. You may have had loved ones pass away or had an incident that separated you from them.
We are all on our own journey in life. Yet, we are all the same and all united in so many ways. We have all experienced a myriad of emotions.
Life can be Compared to the Four Seasons:
Autumn: This is where things that no longer serve us on our journey begin to break away (fall from us). It’s a scary time, as we often fear losing that which we have. When you understand what this season is all about, you might consciously choose to let go of the past, negative thoughts, limiting beliefs and toxic relationships.
Winter: We are left wandering in the cold, dark nights of the winter wondering how we will ever get through this. We feel the deep sadness of loss, or feel victimized due to traumatic events we have endured. We might feel hopeless. This is where we often experience the dark night of the soul.
Spring: A time of rebirth, and new beginnings. We have a renewed hope and begin to feel alive again. We begin planting seeds for a happier, brighter future.
Summer: The time to play, to enjoy life and soak in the sun. Things seem to be going our way, which increases our hope for the future.
Regardless what you are going through, there are others that have had similar experiences. There is hope and YOU CAN get through this, and come out the other side living a fun, happy and fulfilled life.
When, I tell my story, people invariably tell me, “I’m so sorry that you had to go through that!” I am not sorry. It was all a part of my journey. I would not be me without my own challenges and trials in life.
I don’t consider myself a victim or a survivor. When I think of the word survivor, I think of just getting by day after day after day. This does not fit with what I want in my life – or in yours!
I am a WINNER IN LIFE. And that’s my hope for you!
I was sexually abused by my father and two family friends from the time I can remember, until I reached 16. Dad was also physically and mentally abusive. Being the youngest, and being a girl, I got the least of the beatings. That being said, Dad broke my ribs when I was 14.
My life was so normal to me. I thought that my experiences were what all kids had. (Isn’t that what you thought when you were young?) Looking back, I can see the horror in it, however as I lived it, I did not feel terrorized – it was just a part of life.
Dad was a big strong man. He was the man of the house. He ruled his castle with an iron thumb. I looked to him for protection from the outside world. I looked to him for guidance. It was like he was two different men, one that I loved, admired and looked up to and one that I hated being around.
At age 18, I married Earl, whom had the same temperament as Dad. When he “beat” my son at age three, I didn’t see anything wrong with it. It was normal to me. Throughout my 20-year marriage to Earl, he belittled me, and he controlled me.
At the age of 35, I started seeing a coach and my coach told me that my life was my choice. I thought she was crazy. The life I was living at the time, was definitely not my choice!
I was severely depressed – even suicidal. I thought my life had no meaning, I felt worthless and alone. I had overcame severe female problems due to the abuse as a child, a hysterectomy, both of my parents dying, Earls brother being murdered, about 8 other deaths in my family and to top it off, Earl told me he didn’t love me anymore, but was staying because of the kids. To say life sucked, was an understatement!
However, these words were the beginning of my own transformation which led me to where I am today, helping women define who they are and creating a life for themselves where they do things they love and have fun, exciting experiences. Most of all, helping women to discover how to put their past behind them, as well as how to handle each challenge in life with grace and ease.
Here’s a video of my story … and a MUST SEE end, of the healing that gave me the courage to share my entire story with the world. It’s 12 minutes long, and my hope is that it will inspire you, that if I could come out the other side – that you can too!
I am on a mission to help women to stop allowing their past to define them, so that they too can define themselves, live fully and love fully.